Monday, July 10, 2017

Changing Your Focus

Changing Your Focus



By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com • www.asipofinspiration.com
Email:  nspire@champagneconnection.com

     Lately, television and newspapers have been saturated with so much sadness.  Stories of people making their transition before they have had a chance to live; tales of wonderful people bought to their knees by illness; recent events involving hard-working couples’ falling prey to mortgage foreclosures are running rampant throughout our society.  These are the events that have hypnotized us into believing that we are victims, unwilling partners in a game headed for destruction.  Feeling powerless, we keep telling “stories” of lack, impending doom, and financial destruction and if we are not the ones telling the stories, we certainly are intently listening to them and willingly passing them on.  We unknowingly weaken our beliefs, our consciousness every time we participate, actively or passively, in these kinds of conversations.  Beliefs are just a set of opinions that we regard as factual.  Our “facts” or beliefs about escalating prices, economic disasters and impending illness are the key that activates the various laws of cause and effect.  We must learn to change our focus and tell different stories.  I often say our conversations, our thoughts must mostly consist of what is right with our lives and less of what is wrong.  If you are finding this difficult to achieve, then you must look at what you believe.  If you are always sick, every supervisor you have had treats you unfairly and you are constantly robbing Peter to pay Paul, then your life is speaking volumes about what you believe.  It is time for you to focus your attention on your negative parent thoughts and eliminate them; not gradually, but with deliberate and purposeful intention.  



     In order to live the life we were created to live, we must start to tell different stories, have different conversations.  We all have the same amount of time, how we utilize our time determines our success.  The difference between people living their best lives now and people, who are not, is consciousness.  Because we do not have any time to squander, start right not to think about something that made you feel good.  When you awaken every morning, think of something that happened the day before that made you feel good.  Before you fall asleep at night, always think of something that happened during the day that made you feel good.  As you begin to focus on good things, you will attract more good things, thereby, giving you material for telling better stories. 
Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.  Dream Big! Life the life you have imagined.  

"Do not go gentle into that good night, find a hill worth dying for and take it &
Be the person you're waiting for. Make today so awesome, that yesterday gets jealous
and above all else do it Your way."


Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor & Transformational Specialist, has the uncanny ability to help others break through toxic emotions and heal the residue left from traumatic experiences that are causing them to sabotage their success. She works with others to recognize, uncover and reconcile painful feelings, hidden secrets and memories that are affecting their financial health and the health of their families.
Stephanie has an insatiable appetite for helping others achieve the impossible. She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., www.champagneconnection.com, the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration", www.asipofinspiration. 





Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Let Freedom Ring - The Power of Choice

Let Freedom Ring - The Power of Choice


By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  ·  www.asipofinspiration.com

     I am fixated with freedom, but with freedom comes the power to choose.  The freedom to choose love or hate; move forward or stay stagnant; to be victorious or be a victim; to laugh or cry; to see good in every situation or not.  You choose.  Without the power to choose, we are not free; the power to choose requires responsibility.  Choice is like breathing; you cannot avoid it.
     When everything is working in our lives, we proudly take the credit.  But when the events in our lives are forcing us out of our comfort zone into a growth zone, we blame everyone and everything surrounding us.  We are quick to blame that “big bad Goliath”   for causing our problems.  Often in the midst of trouble, we see our inner David as being small and unprepared for such a great challenge.  We tell ourselves that after all 1 Samuel 17 really does not have anything to do with us.   So exercising our power to choose, we choose fear.  When we do this we have actually underestimated the strength of our inner David. 
   When life forces us out of our comfort zone, we are forced to come face to face with all that needs to be healed in our own lives.  The murkiness that we have covered up for such a long time begins to ooze into our world requiring us to finally conquer it before we can move toward our goals.




     Coming face to face with what we fear is hard work but it is necessary if we are going to fulfill our destiny.  Where to start is what causes the most angst.  So I advise starting where you are.  Using the power of your inner David is a great beginning.
     First, make the decision to do whatever it takes to conquer your fear.  Without out a decision to move forward, no matter what, you will never meet your success. 
    Then create a plan for your new life.  How many hours, days will you work?  How will you spend your evenings and weekdays?  What are your new friends like?  Where will you vacation?  If these images are difficult for you to maintain, then create a Vision Board, but remember Vision Boards are no substitution for taking action.  Vision Boards are useful for helping to organize your thoughts and ideas. 
     Next, identify all the things you have for which to be grateful.   When you are in the midst of a challenge, we complain about what is wrong with our life.  It is doing this time of crisis that we must remember just how many good things nestled in our life.
     Forgiveness is one of the most precious gifts we can give ourselves.  Before we can move forward negative emotions must be resolved.  Come to terms with any anger you feel about any event, circumstance or person.  This is a radical step, but choosing to find the good which is the lesson buried in the midst of your anger will reveal what story to which you are tied.  Once identified, you can take the steps to unbind yourself from the worn-out story. 
     Now move your vision into action.  Make a list of actions that must be taken.  You must take 3 to 5 actions a day to achieve your goals. 
     Now untie yourself from anything holding you back.  Go forth and create.     
     Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.  Live the life you have imagined.  Dream Big!       


Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman, Ph.D
The Empowerment Doctor
Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor, has the uncanny ability to help others transform their emotional and mental obstacles into stepping stones to living their dreams.  She has an insatiable appetite for helping others achieve the impossible.  She works with others to recognize, uncover and reconcile painful feelings, hidden secrets and memories that are affecting their financial health and the health of their families. She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration”, http://www.asipofinspiration.com and http://www.champagneconnection.com.  She is also a regular contributor to The MetaMonthly Magazine, Champagne and Beyond Magazine, www.champagneandbeyond1.com, and Ezine Articles.  Her Super Power:  Transforming Lives.






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