Friday, August 24, 2018

The Secret Sauce – Psst, it’s Not a Secret

The Secret Sauce – Psst, it’s Not a Secret


By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  · www.asipofinspiration.com

Since Jack in the Box advertised it added a “secret sauce” to its burgers, advertisers have taken the concept of the secret sauce to a new level.  The term now has a life of its own, lending itself to developing a variety of meanings, while simultaneously oozing into the empowerment and self-help arena.  It is infused in just about every conversation, and we are always urged to discover the secret sauce.

Many successful entrepreneurs and writers have stated that the secret sauce is a myth. 

I am often asked what my secret is.  What is my secret sauce?  My secret sauce, like Jack in the Box, is not a secret at all.  The term secret sauce most likely derived from the term “saucier, which is a culinary term for the expert use of b├ęchamel, veloute, espagnolo, hollandaise and tomato to create an unlimited number of other sauces.  Even though it is not a secret, it is a discovery.




Photo by Kristina Flour on Unsplash

During my life, I have overcome teenage pregnancy, homelessness, and financial ruin.  The tools I used to overcome this turmoil and adversity was not a secret.  It was a discovery.  I was given the choice of living a life filled with poverty and crime or create a life filled with abundance and happiness.  As far as I was concerned, I was not given a choice.  The only acceptable outcome for me was abundance and joy.   I said yes to success. That meant I had to get out of my way.  So the question is what did I do daily to create an abundant life? 

I accepted the fact that I was responsible for my successes and my failures. I clinically dissected my failures not to allow the negative emotions get in the way.  Like when you treat a cold.  You don’t waste precious time trying to figure out “why me,” instead you start to look for solutions. 




Secret Ingredient #1 - Re-evaluate Your Plan - I reevaluated my plan.  I asked myself fundamental questions.  How much time did I spend planning?  Did I include the possibility of obstacles?  Did I consider what I would do if things went well?  What would I do if things went extremely well? What would I do if everything went as planned? 

Secret Ingredient #2 - Set Goals - I learned to set goals and milestones and to plan for things not going as I may have hoped.  Science has proven that 92% of people do not achieve their objectives because they did not set goals. 

Secret Ingredient #3 - Work Your Plan - Working your plan requires commitment.  Do not trust your success to the daily whims of life.  I recommend the Jack Canfield’s Rule of Five.  Do five things daily toward achieving your goals.  Some days will be tedious, but it will always be worth it.  In spite of how you may feel, do it anyway.   Keep a list of your daily activities so that you can review your plan and your action steps regularly. 

Secret Ingredient #4 - Gratitude - Science has proven that people who are grateful are happier, healthier, and earn more.  Daily, list five things for which you are grateful.  If writing them down does not work for you, think about them before you go to sleep.  You will find that you may sleep better also.

Secret Ingredient #5 - Spiritual Practice - This practice will allow you to delve deeper into who you really are and connect you to your Higher Power, your Divine Self.  You can sit quietly and meditate, listen to music, read something inspiring, practice forgiveness (this is a must).  Consistent spiritual practices will lift your mood; expand your mental clarity, quiet mental chatter to allow answers and information to flow to you quickly.

So just like the “Saucier” it only takes a few ingredients, and you can create the secret sauce for your life.

Dream Big!  Live the life you have imagined. 

Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne. 

Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor, has the uncanny ability to help others transform their emotional and mental obstacles into stepping stones to living their dreams.  She has an insatiable appetite for assisting others to achieve the impossible.  Stephanie works with others to recognize, uncover and reconcile painful feelings, hidden secrets and memories that are affecting their financial health and the health of their families. She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration,” http://www.asipofinspiration.com and http://www.champagneconnection.com.  She is also a regular contributor to The MetaMonthly Magazine, Champagne and Beyond Magazine, www.champagneandbeyond.com, and Ezine Articles.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

The Invisible Backpack

The Invisible Backpack


The Invisible Backpack
By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  · www.asipofinspiration.com

     Cesare Pavese says, “If you want to travel far and fast, travel light.  Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears.” 


          We all travel through life with memories, experiences, and stories that serve as the backdrop of our lives.  We approach each new encounter carrying an invisible backpack filled with everything we believe we need to successfully navigate through life.  If we took a careful look in our backpacks, we would find joyful memories, satisfying aha moments, financial successes, hopes, and dreams.  These are packed side by side with sadness, unforgiveness, losses, and fears.  Even though our lives are filled with a cornucopia of experiences, often we discount the good and amplify the bad.

     Psychologists have discovered that in spite of the good things we have accomplished, negative emotions are processed in a different hemisphere in the brain than positive emotions.  Because of this, negative emotions require more thinking and more information to resolve.  In addition, Professor Roy Baumeister, co-author of Bad is Stronger than Good, discovered that bad experiences have more impact on us than good ones.  This makes it easy for us to forget the things for which we are grateful. 

      To lighten our bags and empty our invisible backpacks so we can travel fast, we must unpack the negative beliefs, unforgiving attitudes we have justified hanging onto and the “they did me wrong” stories.  We must eliminate as many of the things that weigh us down as we can. 

     Start transforming your life and unpacking your backpack by doing the following:

Remember the Good that happens to you.  Five (5) good things will change one (1) negative experience.  This is an excellent time to start a Gratitude Journal or a “Daily Miracle Journal.” List five or more things for which you are grateful.  In gratitude, there are no limits; there are no big or small miracles.  There is only gratitude.  In a year, you will have from 365 – 1,825 “daily” miracles. 

Brag Lists. Create a list of things you have accomplished that you can brag about.  Try to list seven things.  Keep this list readily available and review it weekly at a minimum.  Your brag list will remind you that in the midst of every new storm that you are pretty amazing and have already conquered many storms. When life whispers “You cannot withstand the storm.”  You reply, “I AM the storm.”

Identify the Miracle.  Each experience brings with it a litany of lessons and blessings.  List the lessons learned, the insights gained.  If you cannot change the situation, use the lessons learned and the ideas gained so you can change how you think about it.  Asking yourself how you can grow from this experience will help you find the golden nugget in the midst of what you perceived to be darkness.

           Now your bags are lighter.  What is your next stop?
          Get on-board.  Your dream is waiting.
          Dream Big!  Live the life you have imagined. 
          Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.  



If you’re ready to identify and heal the emotions that are keeping you broke,
join us for the 2018 Ignite Your Inner Millionaire Conference, September 7-8, 2018, Hyatt Lodge McDonalds Campus, 2816 S. Jorie, Oak Brook, IL.  For additional information visit www.igniteyourinnermillionaire.com


Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor, has the uncanny ability to help others transform their emotional and mental obstacles into stepping stones to living their dreams.  She has an insatiable appetite for assisting others to achieve the impossible.  Stephanie works with others to recognize, uncover and reconcile painful feelings, hidden secrets and memories that are affecting their financial health and the health of their families. She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration” 







Sunday, June 10, 2018

2018 Ignite Your Inner Millionaire Conference



2018 Ignite Your Inner Millionaire Conference



By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  ·  www.asipofinspiration.com




We’ve all heard about “that special mindset for success” often coined as the Millionaire Mindset, but does it really exist and can anyone, even the spiritual seekers, access and develop it or must you be super-smart along with being super-rich?

These are questions often asked but seldom answered. In this conference, we will go beyond answering them to give you keys and show you how and why they work. They can work for you. The first step toward unlocking that door to success is to believe it can be opened.





Most people NEVER become financially SUCCESSFUL and go through LIFE never knowing WHY They remain blissfully ignorant about their financial future, keep on working & hope they have saved enough to retire. 

The question you have to ask yourself is: Is this going to be YOUR story?
Join me for the 2018 Ignite Your Inner Millionaire Conference, 
Hyatt Lodge at McDonald’s Campus 
2815 Jorie Blvd, 
Oak Brook, IL. 60523, 
September 7th thru September 8th, 2018.




Click the link below





"Do not go gentle into that good night; find a hill worth dying for and take It; be the person you're waiting for; make today so awesome, that yesterday gets jealous and above all else do it Your way."
    
Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor, has the uncanny ability to help others transform their emotional and mental obstacles into stepping stones to living their dreams.  She has an insatiable appetite for helping others achieve the impossible.  She works with others to recognize, uncover and reconcile painful feelings, hidden secrets and memories that are affecting their financial health and the health of their families. 

She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration,” http://www.asipofinspiration.com and http://www.champagneconnection.com.  She is also a regular contributor to The MetaMonthly Magazine, Champagne and Beyond Magazine, www.champagneandbeyond.com



Thursday, May 10, 2018

From Chaos to Success

From Chaos to Success


By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  · www.asipofinspiration.com

     It seems that we have all been experiencing constant change at some level in our lives for years and as a result, we are running around frantically searching for the cause.  We view these changes as chaotic because we believe that we are fervently seeking success.  But the pseudo-success we seek is a form of stagnation.   Because we doubt our power, we want our lives to stand quietly by and give its’ permission for us to overdose on consumerism, reality television, social media and anything else that will suppress the desires of our heart.  But no matter how hard we try to ignore our power, our inner voice will keep knocking on our hearts until we answer, even if the only reason we answer is to end the chaos. 


     We were each created with more power than we will ever fully be able to understand.  Recent research in Quantum Physics has demonstrated that everything is energy and everything is interconnected to the seen and unseen.  Our thoughts create, our bodies are filled with healing power, and we are in the driver’s seat.   Are you ready to blast off toward your dreams and create the “super bowl” in your life?  If the answer is yes, here are a few pointers for your navigation system:
   1)      Heal your addiction to gossip & idle conversations – Some research suggests that we spend approximately 5 hours a day, 25 hours a week gossiping or participating in idle conversation and activities.  That is 25 hours a week that we are not working toward our goals.  Active involvement in this type of activity will keep you from being successful.    Instead, start to keep your mind on your dreams, and your dreams on your mind.  
2)     Learn to dance with your anger – We are never angry for the reasons we think; too often we read too much into situations, and we are constantly adding our stuff.   Emotions, feelings are road signs in our lives.  When you are experiencing anger, ask “why I am taking this personally?  Is there any truth to what was said?  What is this feeling revealing about me?  Have I felt this way before?”  Tracing these feelings back to the first time you felt this emotion will identify the issue that needs to be forgiven.  This step is critical.   Anger keeps your mind blocked and interferes with your ability to attract success, including money.     
3)     Expand your imagination - Instead of using your imagination to create trials, tribulations, and, drama, keep your focus on possibilities and not obstacles.  Allowing your mind to dwell on negative thoughts and images will rob you of any possibilities that are the horizon.  You can only achieve what you can perceive.       
       
These changes will allow you to create the best in life and develop your “greatness”.  The ball is in your court. 
 Let the God Times Roll.
Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.
Dream Big!  Live the life you’ve imagined. 
To learn more techniques to living your dreams, join me for the 2018 Ignite Your Inner Millionaire Conference, September 7-8, 2018.  Go to www.igniteyourinnermillionaire.com for additional information.  

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

A Mother's Memory

A Mothers Memory


By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  ·  www.asipofinspiration.com

     It’s time for the annual interrogation, and no matter what I do or say, I am unable to escape the constant questioning. As a mother, for the last 30 days, my family has continually asked “what do you want for Mother’s Day?, Where do you want to go for dinner? I am certain this ritual occurs in the lives of all Mothers.  I remember doing the same thing with my mother. 
     Most of us will approach this month trying to decide what can we do to show our mothers how much we love them; some will spend this month mourning the loss of their mothers, and some will feel disconnected because they do not have a physical presence of a mother.  But no matter where you stand, the Infinite All Knowing Presence of Spirit has made certain we would always have examples of mothers in which to turn.    
     According to the revealing word, Mothers represent the manifestation of spiritual ideas.  Mother’s teach us that the secret to success is actually not a secret at all.  If you do what comes naturally to you, if you do what you love, you will have all the success, joy, love you desire. 
     One of the important lessons I learned was to use the power of choice wisely and watch where I place my focus.  It was my mother and the many others who served as surrogate mothers  -my aunts, sisters - in my life that reminded me to stay focused on the good things in my life and no matter what never doubt my ability to succeed. 


     My Mother and the other mothers in my life also taught me never to give up.   Encouraged to keep working toward achieving my goals I can only hope that this added more joy to my Mothers’ memories. 
     Our Mother’s memories are filled with images of our successes and failures; over comings and frustrations. Their stories are colorful reminders of all that is good, and of all the kindness we possess and leave in this world.
  . Mothers give us an awareness that we have something to offer the world.  No matter what we may have heard, no matter what we’ve experienced, no matter our race, our income, or any other arbitrary factor, we were golden in our Mother’s eyes, we are golden in the eyes of Spirit.
     So when celebrating the Mother’s in our lives, give a memorable gift,  gift that will live in their hearts forever. 

Dream Big, Live the life you’ve imagined.
Life is too short to drink cheap champagne.
Join me at the Ignite Your Inner Millionaire Conference, September 7-8, 2018.  Register at www.igniteyourinnermillionaire.com


Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor, has the uncanny ability to help others transform their emotional and mental obstacles into stepping stones to living their dreams.  She has an insatiable appetite for helping others achieve the impossible.  She works with others to recognize, uncover and reconcile painful feelings, hidden secrets and memories that are affecting their financial health and the health of their families. She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration,” http://www.asipofinspiration.com and http://www.champagneconnection.com.
She is also a regular contributor to The MetaMonthly Magazine, Champagne and Beyond Magazine, www.champagneandbeyond1.com

Saturday, April 14, 2018

Enter the Peace Zone

Enter the Peace Zone


By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  ·  www.asipofinspiration.com


     No matter how much progress we have made on our spiritual journey, it seems we frequently find ourselves in a space cluttered with uncertainty, anxiety and even fear.  The more we try to ignore these emotions, the more we tend to drive them deeper into our bodies.  This refusal to live in the moment, to experience life and not judge it, can derail or health, our finances and our dreams.  We forget that we hold onto our emotions, our emotions do not hold onto us.    Each moment presents an opportunity to releases these emotions, and when we release them, they have no choice but to dissipate. 
     We have been hypnotized by society to bear the pain in our bodies rather than to authentically experience our emotions. 
Embracing Your Emotions

 Experiencing and releasing our emotions is easier than we think.  An extremely easy and popular technique is to start by locating the discomfort or pain in your body.  Once you have located the place of discomfort begin by placing your hand in that area and asking “what have you come to reveal to me; what memory is behind this experience?” 

     Write down what you are feeling and be as detailed as you can.  It will also help for you to record your feelings in as many perspectives as possible.   Now place your hand on the area of discomfort and breathe in with the intention or releasing the discomfort or pain.   Hold this intention for approximately 2 minutes. 
     If you are experiencing pain in multiple places in your body repeat these steps until you have acknowledged every place your body that is experiencing pain or discomfort.  
     After this process is completed, forgive any revelations that need to be forgiven. 
     The more you are able to listen to your body the better you are able to stay in the moment and experience the emotion. Experiencing the emotion will provide you with valuable insight into what you need to forgive or what you need to release.  
Cellular Memories

Another value healing technique is a technique used to heal Cellular Memories.  Scientist as beginning to suspect what alternative, naturopathic doctors have always known; our internal organs as strongly affected by emotions and specific emotions affect specific organs.     
     The Energy Medicine Tool, By Dr. Alexander Lloyd, from The Love Code: The Secret Principle to Achieving Success in Life, Love, and Happiness, is incredibly easy to use.  Below is a summarized version.  For more detailed information visit http://www.booksforbetterliving.com/energy-medicine-tool/
Position 1: The Heart
In the first position, you place one hand (either left or right), palm down, on your upper chest (over your heart), and place your other hand, also palm down, over the first. You can either rest your hands in this position and hold for one to three minutes, or you can move your hands gently in a circular motion (clockwise or counterclockwise, whatever is most natural), switching directions every 15 seconds or so, for one to three minutes.
Position 2: The Forehead
In the second position, you place one hand (either left or right) over your forehead, with your little finger just beneath your eyebrows (just barely grazing the bridge of the nose), and your other hand on top of that hand, both with palms down.
Position 3: Top of the Head
For the third position, place one hand (either left or right) on the top of your head, or your crown, and your other hand on top of that hand, both with palms down.
When you apply energy to these three areas—the heart, the forehead, and the top of the head—you’re physically increasing blood flow and functionality to the control centers for every cell, every thought, every emotion and every belief, as well as to your heart, third eye and crown chakras, the three most powerful cellular memory energy centers in the body. 

       To live our dreams we are required to fully experience life and embrace every event and opportunity as growth.  In your toolbox, be sure to carry extra helpings of acceptance, forgiveness, and love.     
     Gena Showalter says “Mom; you don’t just embrace your emotions, you make love to them.”
     Let the God Times Roll.
Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.
Dream Big!  Live the life you’ve imagined 

To learn more techniques to living your dreams, join me for the 2018 Ignite Your Inner Millionaire Conference, September 7-8, 2018.  Go to Ignite Your Inner Millionaire additional information.