Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Shattered Assumptions - A Growth Period That Teaches Us to Be More Loving

By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  ·  www.asipofinspiration.com

At the very essence of our human existence is a belief system that serves as a catalyst for the actions which form our life.  These beliefs and assumptions mold our interactions with friends, coworkers, lovers, family members, etc.
     We assume certain facts will always remain true.  Our dear friends will always “have our back”; we will always have the love and respect of family members; we will functions in life without being a victim or a crime, contracting a serious illness or needing to depend on substances to get through the day. 
     We also assume the people close to us will never disappoint, embarrass or humiliate us and we will never give them cause to forsake the team – desert us. 
     Because life is full of abrupt twists and turns, these assumptions, which form our belief systems, are often shattered.  This causes intense emotional pain that consumes every atom and molecule in our body leaving us writhing in despair, with nowhere to turn for comfort.  We then start to questions our very existence.  Every action and decision in our past is suspect.  The value of our accomplishments is diminished while our pain intensifies our failures.  Finally, in agony, we cry out “If there is a God, why have You forsaken me?”  It is at this point, the healing process can begin.

     True, permanent healing is not easy, but it is necessary if we are to experience the wonders of the universe.  Rest assured, after this crisis has been dealt with and you have healed, these will be other turning points and all of them will seem to rock the calm peace of your soul.
      These growth periods are always meant to teach us to be more loving, to “love the harshest of enemies and the vilest of demons.”  They are there to teach us to free ourselves from earthly appearances, human conditions, and graven images and to focus solely on the pure essence of life – love. 
     Anyone who has spent their days in the flow of life knows to live your faith and convictions in the more difficult thing to do.  One of my fellow truth students says we must keep the truths principles as goals, striving daily to embrace them totally, while remembering not to be harsh with ourselves when we have missed the mark.  Our “willingness” to become more like the Father is the only real requirement.

     A course in Miracle emphasizes that the ego’s constant battle is to convince us we are separate from the power that created us.  It is this belief in being separate that causes us to experience shattered assumptions.  By focusing on our oneness with Spirit, using “righteous judgment,” a deeper awareness of the Divine will begin to unfold. At this point, when Spirit holds our hands and whispers to us, we will be able to hear “ancient secrets” and witness “prophesies foretold,” for Spirit is our foxhole buddy.  Infinite Kindness will never fail us our forsake us.  No night is too dark or any problem too big for Infinite Kindness to solve.  The willingness to start depending on Spirit is paramount to our healing.  The Course of Miracles teaches that this shift in consciousness is the clearest path to being whole. 
     In my own life, the Divine Creator has blessed me with foxhole buddies wrapped in flesh.  I am convinced Spirit has reincarnated Itself through these people to ensure me that the paths I travel, in my feeble effort to reconnect with my Creator, are filled with love, support, and comfort.  I do love them and will forever be grateful for them.

Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor & Transformational Specialist, has the uncanny ability to help others break through toxic emotions and heal the residue left from traumatic experiences that are causing them to sabotage their success. She has an insatiable appetite for helping others achieve the impossible. She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., www.champagneconnection.com, the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration" www.asipofinspiration.com.   Her super power: Transforming Lives

Thursday, January 5, 2017

Making Room for the New: Creating a Vacuum is Nature's Number One Rule

By Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman
Author of Be Sure You Dance:  Life’s lessons to make every moment count,
Embracing Life’s Lessons and Is Anybody Listening?
www.champagneconnection.com  ·  www.asipofinspiration.com

Recently, a friend of mine said, I have learned “you have got to get rid of the old in order to make room for the new.” If we all realized just how poignantly true this statement is, we could easily and effortlessly claim our good. 
     Creating a vacuum is the number one rule in the universe. Often, we cling to old, worn-out things because we are afraid to embrace the new and often unknown. Creating a vacuum applies to all areas of our lives. This has to be done frequently throughout our life. First, start with areas that seem insignificant. Clean out your car, your desk drawers, your closets and all the physical crooks and crannies in your surroundings.  Don’t forget the trunk of your car as well as your wallets and handbags. After you have thoroughly cleaned out these areas donate, throw away, or give away the items that no longer suit you. There are a few guidelines to remember. Anything that makes you: a) feel poor or unworthy, b) has not been used in a year, c) will never be used again, d) makes you feel sad, must be discarded. The emotional attachment, as well as any financial concerns regarding these items, must be released and forgotten. Starting with these areas will result in some immediate improvements in your life. Be honest with yourself. If you feel at all anxious during this process, here is a prayer that may help:

I freely and fully release all worn-out things, conditions, and people who are no longer for my highest good. I freely and fully release them to their highest good and my highest good comes to me with speed, ease, and wisdom.

     For some, this will be an easy process, however, for many, it will not be. Just remind yourself that nature abhors a vacuum and is busy creating the appropriate items to replace the ones that no longer suit you. Now the real work begins. 
     You will also have to take the next step if you are seeking permanent change. You must decide to concentrate on “healing” you. This means you will have to take a break from “fixing” the people around you.  Letting others be is a difficult task, but somehow I think they will survive.
     You begin this tedious process by discarding relationships, not for your highest good; releasing past hurts and feelings; severing emotional attachments to old lovers; forgiving painful events in the past and casting off old ideas.  

     All these things, as well as possessions that have outlived their usefulness, block the flow of good in the universe. Dwelling on past events of your life will guarantee that you will continue to relive these experiences. Old feelings and hurts will be cast into all new relationships, causing them to end in the same way. When relationships end, remember the heart is not broken. This is only a signal that it is time to continue your journey on another level. Carry with you only the good, the love you shared. Allow all else to fade into nothingness, for that is truly what it is. 
     If you are having difficulty determining if your current relationships are toxic, ask yourself if the relationships are abusive in anyway, i.e., physically, emotionally or financially. If the answer is yes, then you have some arduous decisions to make. When we become entangled in toxic relationships (personal, physical, family or professional), our growth is stunted. We try to heal the others, forgetting that the only person we can truly heal is our self.   By becoming fully committed to our healing, we will be able to let go of these relationships. Once you have freed yourself, you can begin to grow and your life will be bombarded with miracles. I will not promise this will be easy. Because this is a very difficult step, it will be one of the most rewarding.
     Spirit has promised to not fail or forsake us.  This applies to all areas of our lives. After you have completed the task and created a vacuum, Spirit will rush in and fill the empty places with wonderful people and delightful things. So do not panic if it looks like you are all alone and do not have a thing to wear.
     Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.  Dream Big!  Live the life you have imagined. 

Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor & Transformational Specialist, and Pranic Healing Enthusiast,  has the uncanny ability to help others transform their emotional and mental obstacles into stepping stone to living their dreams.  She has an insatiable appetite for helping others achieve the impossible.  She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration”, http://www.asipofinspiration.com,  and http://www.champagneconnection.com.  She is also a regular contributor to The MetaMonthly Magazine, Champagne and Beyond Magazine, www.champagneandbeyond.com, and Ezine Articles.  

Her super power:  Transforming Lives